If you disappear in the wants, needs and desires of others, you’re not honoring YOUR life experiences and soul evolution. First, we need to fully love and be responsible to ourselves. Then we will naturally have enough to give and energy to share with others. It may feel uncomfortable, but this is only telling us about the level of love we have for ourselves and our worthiness to have our needs/desires expressed and met. Finding the right balance is nobody else’s responsibility, but can, over time, easily show up as self pity or bitterness over lost opportunity or self care, if we don’t acknowledge that this lies on us and is part of being/becoming mature, aware and able to master our own lives.
This recognition is closely connected to the release of old patterns and healing within.
Your higher self is always mirroring back to you where you are not in alignment with your soul blueprint. First through your subtle intuition, then through your emotional/mental body (you feel emotional pain/suffering or have repetitive thought patterns), then, if your higher self can’t get through in any of these ways, it will show you through your physical body through illness/different kinds of imbalances.
Healing comes through an expanded awareness to these levels of communication with your higher self, and a dedicated love-filled practice of listening, decoding and understanding this language. This eventually brings you into to the natural flow and purity of your soul alignment, embodied in human form.